“Destiny Building…One Thought at a Time”

Written by  //  March 19, 2013  //  HEALTH & BEAUTY  // 


LaTrelle D. Jackson, Ph.D.

We create our world everyday through our words, connections with others, and the way we perceive situations.  Without realizing it, we give life or death to our dreams with our daily inner and outer dialogue.  Words have the power to mobilize positive or negative forces.  These forces impact everything from our self-concept, physical energy, level of optimism, to our expectations of others.  What are your thoughts and words inviting into your life?

 The Bible teaches us that we have not because we ask not.  This lesson suggests we must first form the thought that’s required to ask, before moving into action for change to be realized.  John 16:24 (NIV) states, “Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete”.  Inner joy is central to a fulfilled life.  How often do you boldly call positive things into your life?  God’s promises are clearly outlined for his children to stand on.  “So I say unto you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”. (Luke 11:9, NIV)  Yet, many have yielded that power to defeatist thinking, based on circumstances.  Following are five (5) steps to achieve optimal thinking for destiny-focused living.

1. Monitor how you speak to others.    Check for pessimism, close-ended thinking, or thinking within a boxed framework. Have you become a “yes, but…” communicator?  Make a conscious decision to correct negatively-toned communication and seek the positive lining to every situation.  When possible target at least one positive idea, compliment, or acknowledgement in your exchanges with others.

2. Reflect on daily blessings.   Before you retire for the evening, count at least three (3) positive things that you either initiated or received.  This nightly process fosters gratitude and joyful, purpose-driven living.

3. Reframe your perceptions.   Examine setbacks for the life lessons they offer.  Be slow to take offense. Be quick to seek resolutions to conflicts. Doing so will prevent bitterness and negative self-talk, while fostering character development.

4. Denounce judgmental thinking. It’s human to notice and remember negative things more than positive ones. Take charge of any negative patterns by consciously paying attention to the positive attributes, contributions, and ideals of others.  Resist the lure to be critical of others since the outcome creates distance and paints you in an unfavorable light.  Our beauty is crafted not only by how we look, but by what we say.

5. Speak “life” into your dreams and connections with others.  Brush off your dreams. Assess if they are still important to you.  Establish measurable criteria to achieve the dreams selected for this phase of your life. Regularly reference the realization of dreams through your thoughts and words.  Activating your faith through positive declaration speaks life over you and inspires those around you.

Remember, practicing these strategies regularly help to shift your thinking to a positive zone.  Support your mental and physical well-being by using daily affirmations, listening to uplifting music, participating in self development activities, engaging in spiritual reflection, and focusing on others’ joy (i.e., helping others, helps you).  Note all areas of progress at regular intervals to adjust your positive transformation plan as necessary.  This method of ‘intentional living’ is not only a powerful tool to reshape your life, but serve as a model for others to follow.  So, now what future will you build today?  Your destiny awaits – think it into being.

 LaTrelle_JacksonLaTrelle D. Jackson
LaTrelle D. Jackson, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and clinically-certified forensic counselor. Dr. Jackson is an associate professor in the School of Psychology and Counseling, and director of the Psychological Services Center at Regent University. She earned a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, Master of Arts in Rehabilitation Counseling and a doctorate in Counseling Psychology from The University of Georgia. Committed to integrated wellness, community empowerment, moral leadership, and culturally-sensitive education, Dr. Jackson has engaged in a variety of academic, business, political, and civic endeavors. In 2011, she was elected to the office of Secretary for the American Psychological Association, while retaining her position as Membership Chairperson. Currently, she serves as the Psychological Health Consultant for Esteem Magazine, an Atlanta, Georgia based firm. She can be contacted at latrjac@regent.edu for questions, comments, or concerns generated from the column.


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